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Am I wast­ing energy?

I have to say that Mil­ton didn’t really enlighten me on this one. When meet­ing with prospec­tive clients it’s not about being excited about the project — it’s about being excited to work with the client.

There are lot’s of excit­ing projects out there, many more than you think. Most of them will die because the peo­ple work­ing on them sucked the life out of them.

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SOME PEOPLE ARE TOXIC AVOID THEM.
This is a sub­text of num­ber one. There was in the six­ties a man named Fritz Perls who was a gestalt ther­a­pist. Gestalt ther­apy derives from art his­tory, it pro­poses you must under­stand the ‘whole’ before you can under­stand the details. What you have to look at is the entire cul­ture, the entire fam­ily and com­mu­nity and so on. Perls pro­posed that in all rela­tion­ships peo­ple could be either toxic or nour­ish­ing towards one another. It is not nec­es­sar­ily true that the same per­son will be toxic or nour­ish­ing in every rela­tion­ship, but the com­bi­na­tion of any two peo­ple in a rela­tion­ship pro­duces toxic or nour­ish­ing con­se­quences. And the impor­tant thing that I can tell you is that there is a test to deter­mine whether some­one is toxic or nour­ish­ing in your rela­tion­ship with them. Here is the test: You have spent some time with this per­son, either you have a drink or go for din­ner or you go to a ball game. It doesn’t mat­ter very much but at the end of that time you observe whether you are more ener­gised or less ener­gised. Whether you are tired or whether you are exhil­a­rated. If you are more tired then you have been poi­soned. If you have more energy you have been nour­ished. The test is almost infal­li­ble and I sug­gest that you use it for the rest of your life.